Do's and Dont's are always popular articles, especially on weekends. Business Insider took the high road at this end by having a bartender lecture us, who are presumably adults because we're in a bar, on how to behave in a bar.
One particularly notable piece of advice:
2. Sending a drink to a stranger
Don't: Send a stranger you find attractive a drink directly
If you want to send a drink to a stranger you find attractive, it's essential to be cautious. Some people may be flattered by that, while others may feel turned off. Maybe 10 years ago this might have been a thing, but these days I would avoid it.
Do: Check with the bartender first
Even though it's a polite gesture, people are cautious of strangers who don't have the best intentions: What if they put something in the drink?
Instead of directly sending a drink to someone, I suggest checking in with the bartenders first. You can ask the bartender, "Hey, I would like to buy a drink for the lady at the end of the bar, could you ask her if that's okay?"
This may seem to be something trite, but put it on a grander scale. We need permission from the person whom we pay to talk to another person who pays that same person to serve us under the same roof? Sounds a tad Orwellian.
And do we need permission to pick up a fellow patrons tab? (Wasn't me, but I would have done the same thing)
Americans should never require permission, especially when we're picking up the tab, plus the implicitly suggested 18%.
P.S. Keyatta Mincey Parker is the founder and executive director of "A Sip of Paradise Garden," a nonprofit bartender and hospitality community garden.
Continues... When I'm at a bar, I'll tip at least 18%. I'm a bartender myself, so I understand what it's like...
And if you're being an asshole in a bar, you're probably not reading this.
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