A psychotherapist turned digital wing woman is on a mission. She’s out to warn single women in New York about the worst local men to date whom she has judged to be all creeps.
Meredith Golden is hired by singles to take over their dating apps, to impersonate them and find the best matches. With her job, experience, and interest in dating, she has encountered many jerks along the way, especially those who do not present an honest account of themselves online.
She has compiled a list of about 60 men so far. She avoids the guys on her notorious list for her clients and even spreads the word about their undesirability among other matchmakers.
Golden said she has sort of come to treat the list-making as her mission. She shared: “I started it to protect people. I love dating and being able to meet so many people through my clients. It’s my job to protect them from bad dates.”
Golden, who is married and the proud founder of the dating site SpoonMeetSpoon said offenses of the men in “do-not-date” list include men who lie about their jobs or ages, or who don’t look like their dating profile photos.
She added that also included in her notorious list are those men who’ve expressed racist tendencies, harassed women, and other worse sins. She used as one example one guy who went out with one of her clients and revealed to the woman within 10 minutes of their date that he’d fantasized about stabbing his mother in the eyes with a fork.
The 43-year-old psychotherapist also shared the story of how another creep went out for drinks with one of her clients and shared his troublesome views on dating younger women: “As long as someone has gone through puberty it’s fair game.”
The thing is the guy with pedo tendencies have a “squeaky clean, perfect on paper.”
Golden also automatically blocks men who send nude pictures of themselves or jump right into sex talk online. She said: “It’s weird to say something sexual to a complete stranger. I just abort the conversation.”
Golden is also quick to report guys to the apps who are verbally abusive.
She also shared that the profile of some of the creeps she encountered are surprising- many are professional, holding white collar jobs and graduated from the top 20 schools and they look clean-cut. She said, “it’s weird and unbelievable.”
But single ladies need not lose hope. Golden said that of the thousands of men she interacts with online on a regular basis, most of them aren’t creeps. She added: “Ninety-five percent of them are good guys. It’s the small 5 percent that make my head spin.”